“No, that’s not true! You are not hard to love.”
I believe we’ve all been here before. That moment where we convince ourselves we’re unworthy, not enough for her or him. That we lack something essential.
Or maybe the rejection feels more specific—tied to your looks, your personality, your dreams, your desires, your pleasures?”
How many times have you whispered this lie to yourself? That you’re too much, too complicated, too broken. That loving you requires patience no one has, effort no one wants to give.
But here’s the truth that sometimes gets drowned by noise:
You are not a burden.
You are not a project.
You do not need fixing to be loved!
The right person won’t see your depth as difficulty. They won’t flinch at your scars or turn away from your shadows.
They’ll see the full landscape of who you are—the valleys and the peaks—and choose to stay not despite it, but because of it. You’ve spent so long believing you need to be less to be loved. Quieter. Easier. Smaller. But love that asks you to shrink isn’t love at all.
Perhaps you’re not hard to love—you’ve just been offering yourself to people who weren’t ready to hold something real.
✨ Have you ever had someone love you in a way that surprised you—that made you rethink what you thought love required?
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